I think concealment can almost become a habit over time, like the cake incident you described, then foreshadowing future interactions.
The longer it goes on the harder it is to speak differently, an exhausting pretence.
In reality the other person would rather you were honest even if they didn't like the answer at the time. Finding the right words/tone also tricky but definately worth trying to improve closeness and feeling free and comfortable.
Thanks, Frankie. Wriggling out from under that blanket of concealment is hard to do. It helps when the other person is open to hearing instead of being reactive.
One approach is for the two people to discuss truth and honesty as a subject in itself, rather than as an aspect of some other conversation. By doing this, they can give permission and establish ground rules that will be useful going forward.
Thanks for the restack. 🙏❤️🤸🏼
I think concealment can almost become a habit over time, like the cake incident you described, then foreshadowing future interactions.
The longer it goes on the harder it is to speak differently, an exhausting pretence.
In reality the other person would rather you were honest even if they didn't like the answer at the time. Finding the right words/tone also tricky but definately worth trying to improve closeness and feeling free and comfortable.
Thanks, Frankie. Wriggling out from under that blanket of concealment is hard to do. It helps when the other person is open to hearing instead of being reactive.
One approach is for the two people to discuss truth and honesty as a subject in itself, rather than as an aspect of some other conversation. By doing this, they can give permission and establish ground rules that will be useful going forward.
Thanks for the restack ❤️🤸🏼♀️