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Phil and Maude's avatar

Thanks for the restack @Jeanine Kitchel

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Don Boivin's avatar

It's so great that you wrote about dealing with differences in relationship because I think so many of us get hung up on them, obsess over them even, assuming that the differences are a bad thing, wondering how we will ever get along if we're "so different." My wife and I have many similarities and many differences. I think it's natural. And if you go about being in that relationship in the right way, it's a good opportunity to learn more and more about yourself, your conditioning, expectations, judgements. It's an opportunity to grow into a more accepting and appreciative and tolerant person.

Thank you, Maude and Phil!

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Phil and Maude's avatar

Thanks, Don. It's been a long process of looking at how we get on so well and figuring out exactly why that is. We keep finding nuances that formerly escaped our attention. Phil

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Anita's avatar

Really appreciated reading this. The idea of approaching differences with curiosity instead of certainty feels powerful. It opens the possibility for real connection and growth rather than conflict.

It’s inspiring how you frame listening not just as hearing, but as acting with openness and respect. That kind of shift can change how relationships work with family, friends and partners.

I do like how you’ve covered that differences don’t have to divide us. They can teach us something valuable if we’re willing to listen.

Thanks for making this a wonderful read 💙

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Phil and Maude's avatar

Thanks, Anita. Reframing situations is like seeing a solid object from another angle. Its shape changes, and different facets appear. The I.M. Pei building in Dallas is like that. I think it takes a relaxation of ego as well as a curiosity about how people can hold such different positions. Phil

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Susan's avatar

Needed to read this today. Thank you so much.💖

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Phil and Maude's avatar

Thank you. We are so glad you got what you needed. Thank you for giving us this feedback! Maude

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